Neither Burnudecia Huey, Bonnie Stevenson nor
Akilah Wofford were ready to get pregnant. Two – Huey and Stevenson – were
teenagers and Wofford was 23. All were single.
Getting
pregnant before they chose to be is not a road any one of them would choose to
travel again. Despite making bad decisions and grappling with a torrent of
circumstances in some cases, the experiences have not derailed their
aspirations of achieving something worthwhile in life.
"I
thought it would never happen to me. I was shocked," said Huey, 18, relating
her story to Minister Telisa Franklin, host of "The Telisa Franklin
Show," during a taping with Stevenson and Wofford Friday evening (Nov. 22)
on the topic, "Voices of Teen Moms." The segment will be aired soon
on Franklin's cable TV network on Comcast 31.
Determined
to succeed… Burnudecia Huey was 17 and in her second trimester before she
mustered enough nerve to tell her mother that she had gotten pregnant.
Undaunted, the high school senior still plans to pursue her education while
taking care of 10-month-old Jamarcous Graves.
"There
are extenuating circumstances sometimes that cause teens to make the wrong
decisions," said Franklin. "But those problems don't always stop
teens from exceeding in life. That's why it's so important to address the
issue."
Although
the birthrate for teenagers aged 15-19 dropped 8 percent in the United States
from 2010 to 2011, the latest data compiled by the Centers for Disease Control
and Prevention shows teen pregnancy is still a major concern affecting all
population groups.
Burnudecia Huey
In
2011, 90 girls were reported to be pregnant at Frayser High School, about 11
percent of the school's approximately 800 students. The staggering number of
pregnancies received national attention and prompted local authorities and
school officials to mount a campaign to urge and help young girls and boys make
better decisions.
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Burnudecia Huey and Jamarcous Graves. |
Huey
had heard about the high pregnancy rate at Frayser, but never in her wildest
dreams thought she would get pregnant. It happened when she was 17 and in the
11th-grade at Trezevant High School in the Raleigh-Frayser community.
"I
didn't find out that I was pregnant until I had five months to go. I wasn't
that big at all," said Huey, now a senior at Trezevant running track,
playing the French horn and trumpet, and keeping a steady 3.0 GPA.
Huey
was in her second trimester and feared telling her mother. Her father is
deceased. "When I asked Burnudecia if she was pregnant, she told me
no," said Laveta Huey. "But she kept sleeping a lot and gaining
weight."
Huey
didn't know how to break the news to her mother. So she wrote her a letter,
which read in part: "I'm sorry. I know you're going to be disappointed. I
hope you still love me."
Laveta
Huey was disappointed, but not enough to reject her grandson. Instead, she gave
her daughter the leeway to raise him with minimum help. "It's her
responsibility," she said. "I have to let her be a mom."
Jamarcous
Graves is 10 months old now. His father, Huey said, is still in her life and
caring for his son. Meanwhile, she is putting all the pieces together to become
a nurse.
Bonnie Stevenson
Stevenson
was 16 when she found out she was pregnant. The baby's father was 23. The news,
she said, was depressing. The expectant mother was a power forward on the
basketball team at Trezevant. She played softball, too, and the French horn in
the school band.
Originally
from Boston, Stevenson moved to Memphis when she was 13. Shortly thereafter,
she was raped, which left her devastated. On top of that, her mother was a
substance abuser and her father was incarcerated.
"I
didn't blame anybody for my problems. I knew what I was doing," said
Stevenson, who was raised by her grandmother. "I put my trust in him (the
baby's father). But he didn't hang around. I was vulnerable at the time."
People
started looking at her differently, being judgmental, she said. "I lost a
lot of friends. A lot of family members started looking at me in disgust."
Stevenson
dropped out in the 11th grade and was pregnant again by another man. At 18, she
moved back to her hometown and back again to Memphis when she was 21. She
persevered, earning her GED, the equivalent of a high school diploma.
Stevenson
is 23 years old now and has three children – Baija Miller, 8, Dyuana Stevenson,
6, and Ephan Eubanks, 1. She and the children live in Bartlett with Ephan's
father.
Two
weeks ago, Stevenson lost her job. Undaunted, she is pressing on, studying to
become a physical therapist at Southwest Tennessee Community College.
Akilah Wofford
Wofford
and Stevenson were classmates from the 6th-grade at Brookmeade Elementary until
they matriculated together at Trezevant. She also played basketball on the team
at the point guard position.
After
graduating in 2008, Wofford went to Tennessee State University, majoring in
communications. She left in 2011 and enrolled at the University of Memphis,
this time studying journalism with a minor in communications.
"I
got pregnant at 23," said Wofford, who once considered having an abortion
before deciding to go through with the pregnancy. She still has a relationship
with the baby-to-be's father.
Nearly
six months pregnant now, Wofford laments the fact that she got pregnant. Her
mother died three years ago and she wishes her father could be there for the
birth of her child, but he died in June before Wofford learned she was
pregnant.
"He
raised me," Wofford said, noting that he was an 85-year-old doting father.
"Three years ago I lost my mom, who was a drug addict. So I'm bringing a
child in the world without grandparents."
Wofford
does have a godmother, Phyllis Thomas, whom she regards highly. Thomas, said
Wofford, will step in to fill the role of a grandmother. But family, she noted,
hasn't been there to support her, "particularly on my mother's side."
Reflecting
on her father's love and the circumstances of her pregnancy, Wofford said,
"I will persevere."
(This story was first published in the Nov. 27, 2013, issue of the Tri-State Defender.)